I know this may sound dumb to some people but this chapter made me go back to the past few months and my recent dating record. I was seeing this guy for the past month or so and I found that the section on evaluating the message content really spoke a lot about what I have been thinking and the reasons why I did what I did. I have very high standards and I always knock guys down because I am so picky with what I want. I really do look at the pros and the cons of having a new partner and when the bad outweigh the good you have to get rid of them. I focus on the “facts” like does he have a job? What is his past history? What exactly is he looking for in a relationship? Those all add up to my overall choice to be with someone or not. I laughed at the end of the paragraph it says, “it is important not to evaluate before collecting enough information.” I am very guilty of this, I don’t listen to their facts of life enough before I jump to the conclution if they are good enough for me. This phase is the most difficult for me simply because I don’t look far enough into what it is the message is trying to tell me. I need to not jump to conclutions so fast and really listen to peoples more often because I could miss out of a good thing.
Hi Little Miss Cheerleader,
ReplyDeleteI thought it was admirable of you to have such high standards for yourself, and the fact that you could apply these concepts to your dating life was valuable. I feel like we are all guilty of jumping to conclusions after only hearing a few pieces of information (and sometimes thats enough lol). Often times, I find myself trying to conclude something when I really should give it more time. I think our society is focused on finding that "right" answer, and I know I'm guilty of coming to a quick conclusion as if it was going to help me more in the longrun. But then I realize I should have given things more time to sort themselves out before having a concrete opinion on it. Unfortunately by this point, I'm usually programmed based on the impressions I already got. Your post made me think about how it's important to know what I want, but not assume that I've learned enough because time will show us so much if we allow it to. Great post :)
Hello little miss cheerleader.
ReplyDeleteI found your post pretty funny and you are very brave for putting your faults out in the open. Although some may think of you as being too picky, I think you have the right to be picky. No one (especially girls) should have to settle for someone. I think we should all try to find the best person out there even if it means being single for a while. On the other hand, it does not mean that we should have outrageous standards because in the end, that will only hurt you, and probably keep you single forever LOL. Nice post!
Hey there little miss cheerleader. I really enjoyed reading your post this week. I thought it was interesting that you compared the concepts from this chapter to your dating life. I don't think that it's a bad thing to weigh the pros and cons to decide if you want to be with someone unless it gets in the way of you messing up every potential relationship because of it. I think that it is a good thing to know what you are looking for and not settle for less. I think if you are going to share your life with someone it should be with someone that you are happy with and are excited to be around. Again I thought you did a good job of applying the chapter concepts to your life and I really enjoyed reading your post.
ReplyDeleteGood job on your post! I like how you were able to discuss something personal that was relevant to the question. I believe we all have “very high standards” when it comes to relationships because we want to find things that we are looking for, and not settle for what comes around. Being a relationship takes a lot of work and commitment and you have to be a 100% sure that person your with is what you truly want, that’s why I totally agree with what your saying. I also liked how you stated that you “don’t listen to their facts of life enough” because I believe we all have a hard time listening to others, because if it’s not interesting we lost interest.
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